South By Swipe Left: How Dating App Behavior Changes During SXSW
Alberto Orozco probably won’t open his dating apps during SXSW.
“I feel like SXSW is a little harder, if you’re looking for stability,” said Orozco, 30. “I think it’s a time when people are looking for a fling. … If that’s what you’re looking for, I think South By is a good opportunity – kind of like going to Vegas.”
Orozco, who said he's not interested in a fling, attended a SXSW party last weekend hosted by Austin-based dating app Bumble. Most of the Austin locals there said they typically shun all dating apps when thousands of people flood into the city for the weeks-long festival.
Jill Dretzka, 29, said the SXSW blackout of dating apps fell under a general rule she has: Avoid matching with out-of-towners.
“I don’t swipe on the weekends,” she said. “The bachelor parties descend on Thursday afternoon and they don’t leave until Sunday night, Monday morning. And since I’m actually looking to date someone who lives here, swiping on the weekends seems counterproductive, and so I don’t swipe during South By either.”
'Playing It By Ear'
Dretzka and others said they’re less interested in online dating during SXSW. It’s often hard to discern a visitor from a local. You may not know whether you’re getting fling or a long-term match.
Data from Bumble supports this anecdotal disinterest. According to the company, the number of people in Austin using Bumble Bizz, the company’s professional networking platform, increased by 120 percent last weekend, the first weekend of SXSW. But it’s dating platform, Bumble Date, saw only an increase of 6 percent during the same time. The number of people using Bumble BFF, where you can match with potential friends, rose 38 percent.
Justin Sanchez, 29, is a copywriter in Chicago. I matched with him on the dating app Tinder. (I wanted to meet some of these dating out-of-towners, so I swiped – for work.) In his profile, he’d written, “In town from Chicago!” Others did the same – changing their profiles to make it clear they were just passing through Austin for the festival.
Sanchez said doing so sets expectations.
“You’re like, ‘OK, cool, this is a two-day weekend person I’m going to hang out with. Let’s see how this goes,’” he said.
Sanchez said he often uses dating apps while he’s traveling to meet locals who are willing to show him around. (He’s done this while traveling internationally, as well, in Seoul and Hong Kong.)
He talked to a few people on Tinder in Austin, but he said their schedules never synced up. When traveling and swiping, his intentions are neither solely romantic nor solely friendly; he keeps an open mind.
“I think with dating and just meeting people in general you just should be playing it by ear,” he said.
But Sanchez said he gets why locals might stay off their dating apps during the festival.
“A lot of people avoid online dating during South By because they’re like, ‘There’s just a bunch of jabronis hanging out in Austin not really sticking around or not really being clear about their intentions and who they are.’”
South By South Perks
If there’s one thing Austinites are good at during SXSW, it’s getting things for free. And, sometimes, dating apps can facilitate those exchanges, like Tinder did for a friend of mine, Allie Diamond, when she was living in Austin during SXSW 2015.
In a few months, she was moving to California for a PhD program at the University of California, Berkeley. So, she figured she’d use Tinder to meet people in Austin from Northern California ahead of her move.
“I could match with people now who happen to live in Oakland and then if we go on a date and it's fun I could start dating them when I move there,” Allie said. “Or just to have friends who lived there who could show me around when I got to the Bay Area.”
She matched with a guy from San Francisco who we’ll call Nick. He worked for Spotify and offered to get us into the Spotify House where a couple bands were playing.
“He got us in the back and gave us little wrist things,” Allie said. “It was awesome.”
When she went to California a couple weeks later to hunt for housing, she messaged Nick and he asked her out to dinner.
“We went on a date,” Allie said. “It was horrible.”
Apparently, Nick already felt very comfortable around her – too comfortable for her liking.
“He farted and then like laughed more than once during the date, and I was like, ‘Oh my God,'" she said, confused by how quickly his behavior had changed. “He was totally charming in Austin.”
During SXSW, there had been sunshine, alcohol and good music. Plus, they’d both met outside of their daily responsibilities – he’d been traveling and she’d taken the day off work to hang out.
While the relationship with Nick didn’t work out, Allie did, eventually, find success on Tinder.
“I am getting married to someone, to the most amazing human I’ve ever met."